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Raising kids who don't smoke

If you think talking with your kids about risky behaviors isn't easy, you're not alone - it can sometimes be uncomfortable and embarrassing. When it comes to talking about sensitive topics like tobacco, alcohol and drug use and experimentation with sex, you might be inclined to say "don't do it" and leave it at that. Or you might be tempted to ignore the issues completely.

Even if it seems as though your words won't make a difference, research shows that teens who talk with their parents about drugs on a regular basis are about half as likely to use them. When kids are asked about risky behaviors, they confirm that their parents remain very influential in the decisions they make. Two-way communication about risky behaviors needs to start early and continue through adolescence. Parents who stay involved and communicate effectively can positively influence almost everything in their kids' lives.

Good communication between a parent and a child involves an understanding and development of effective communication skills. Throughout this site, you'll find tips for starting these important conversations with your child and ensuring that they're meaningful and productive.

Sometimes the most difficult part of any discussion about risky behaviors with your child is deciding how to bring it up. Here are a few ideas to help you get started:

Seeing a television public service announcement about not smoking provides an opportunity to talk about challenges your child may be facing, such as how to say no when a friend offers a cigarette.

Noticing someone smoking provides an opportunity to express your views about not smoking and to ask your child what he or she thinks.

Reading together about statistics on youth smoking or drunk driving accidents can help you start talking about risky behaviors and their consequences.

Driving by a billboard that highlights the dangers of smoking can lead to a discussion about the health risks associated with smoking cigarettes.

Using news of reported risky behavior by a celebrity can help start a discussion about taking a stand and setting limits.

Asking your child if any of his or her friends smoke presents an opportunity to ask your child's feelings about smoking and to let him or her know that you disapprove of it.

You may also want to be prepared for those "unexpected" times your child wants to talk. It's important to be ready when they reach out.

For free materials and more information on the "Raising kids who don't smoke" campaign, visit www.philipmorrisusa.com.